Part 2 of you have no idea what you are doing

I separated this post, because there is so much to say on the subject of being clueless of a thing until you are pushed in the deep end. I have found that no matter what choice you make, someone will always have an opinion on what you should be doing. Some people think that what worked for them is automatically the right thing to do for everyone.... not so. In a normal situation you and your child bond and you learn together what works, and what doesn't. For example;  when your baby is fussy you instinctively start this bouncing rocking motion, right. How did you know that motion would help soothe your fussy baby. If that doesn't work you change positions or begin humming. You go through each thing until you know what each cry means for your child. That is what I call using your instinct. People get so hung up on naming things, attachment parenting, instinctive parenting, helicopter parenting, authoritative parenting, and permissive parenting are the 5 major types that people talk about. The names themselves give you a very clear idea of what each one means. It cracks me up sometimes the things that we come up with to complicate things. I can not imagine Eve reading a book on parenting styles to be clear on what kind of parent she would be. If we accept the idea of Eve being the first woman, what frame of reference did she have to be a mother? If you are honest with yourself you could use all of those parenting styles in an hour. Parenting style is personal, it is something that you figure out as you go in many cases, and it is what works for your family. No one can tell you what works for your family but you. It is your sanity on the line. If you want to breast feed until you child is 5 then that is your business. I don't understand why people get so offended. If you don't choose to breastfeed at all that is also your business. We get in our way sometimes when we worry about what other people are doing. If we spend that energy on making sure that children who don't have homes get a proper one, then I think we would be better off as a society. Just my thoughts... What do you think?

Time Flies!

Can you believe it has almost been a year since we began this journey together?  My son just celebrated his first birthday. That was an experience I am glad comes once a year. It made me realize something, you lose your mind for a few weeks leading up to the party and then its over. You have wonderful pictures for sure, and memories, that's great and all , but is it worth crazy Mommy for weeks to have one perfect day? I am not a perfect person. I am not a perfect Mom.  What is so horrible about being your imperfect self?  Who is it that we are trying to impress with these elaborate parties? My son is one. He doesn't care. He is just happy to play with his cousins, and eat cake. Just as a side note Pinterest is the devil. It makes you believe that all this diy stuff you see on there you can do easy peasy.......Nope. Don't get me wrong I love pinterest and most of the stuff I see I can do, but it might take a few tries and ain't nobody got time for that. Follow me on instagram @sociallyawkwardmom to see the invitations my husband,and I made and the Cookie Monster and Elmo cupcakes I made.

Thanks for a great year! Next year will be even better.